World-Leading Psychologist, Author & MCC
Dr. Relly Nadler is a psychologist and Master Certified Coach (MCC). He has been coaching CEOs and their teams for over 20 years. He is the author of 6 popular books on leadership and team building. Leading with Emotional Intelligence has 108 tools and checklists for leaders to employ in their coaching. Relly has a popular blog on Psychology Today since 2011 focusing on applied Emotional Intelligence tools.
His Leadership Keys are used today as a desk reference for executives to improve their performance. He has trained thousands of coaches, since 2001 as a faculty at the College of Executive Coaching.
Relly’s clients have included America Honda, Anheuser-Busch, Anthem, BMW, Baxter Healthcare, Coca- Cola, Comcast, DreamWorks Animation, General Motors Defense, NBC Universal, Union Bank, US Navy, and Vanguard Healthcare. As a co-host with Dr. Cathy Greenberg of “Leadership Development News” an internet weekly radio show on Voice America, with over 1 million downloads in the last 4 years, he has interviewed over 300 leaders, authors, and consultants about their secrets of success.
Leading with EI: Tools & Tips for Top Performance
We know that Emotional Intelligence (EI) is the main success factor for being a top performer than IQ and technical expertise. The question coaches and leaders have is: What do they do to improve their EI?
In episode 16, we had an insightful discussion with Dr. Relly Nadler, a psychologist and Master Certified Coach (MCC). He has been coaching CEOs and their teams for over 26 years. He has trained thousands of coaches and organizations, including America Honda, Anheuser-Busch, Anthem, BMW, Baxter Healthcare, Coca- Cola, Comcast, DreamWorks Animation, General Motors Defense, NBC Universal, Union Bank, US Navy, and Vanguard Healthcare.
With Dr. Relly Nadler, we discussed how to master the for EI success, discovered behaviors that lead to the derailment, and explored some hands-on tools to improve leadership, self-awareness, and self-control. Here a the key excerpts from our conversation with him:
- Emotional Intelligence is being smart about your emotions.
- This is the World Cup for leaders and coaches. This ongoing time is filled with uncertainty; people need coaches and leaders. How can we help them?
- In general, as humans, we don’t like to think long or hard. We don’t want to feel bad or listen well. We often focus more on tasks than the person. Coaches are their thinking partners to think longer, deeper.
- This is the time to think and act with more compassion and perform better as leaders.
- Why do emotions matter? What factors in your life are affected by emotions?
- As a leader, what are you doing around vision? How are you using your empathy? How are you clear on your message?
- We have to be really sensitive to where they’re at.
- What do you do with emotions? NAME it. When we NAME it, we’re actually turning it into a feeling. Then we can move forward to act, manage and express these feelings.
- Leaders are the emotional thermostats.
- Your IQ is static. But EQ can be improved. 90% of the top performers have higher EQ.
- Leadership and Coaching is a slow thinking process. Coaching pushes people to get in touch more with their own thoughts. As coaches, we want our clients to reflect and think deeper.
- Automatic is average. Slower is exceptional.
- Optimism, self-awareness, and Self Actualization are the key competencies of higher EQi.
Some questions to ponder upon:
- Are you as a coach taking your client to a new destination?
- What would be possible for you and your clients to assess the difference between what is interesting and what is important in the stories they are telling?
- What might transform in your client’s life if you could hold the space of curiosity with the internal narrative and help your client unpack the deeper issues at play?
Did you miss our episode with Dr. Relly Nadler? Watch the entire video here to get detailed information on tools and techniques that Dr. Relly Nadler shared for coaches and leaders.
A big shout out to Dr. Relly Nadler for sharing so many hands-on tools and in-depth research to understand more about Emotional Intelligence and how to improve it.
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